Why Do I Feel Guilty for Leaving My Abuser? Leaving an abusive relationship is often portrayed as a moment of freedom. A clean break. Relief. Peace. And for many women they DO feel that for a brief moment... But then a different reality kicks in and it feels very different. Instead of happiness, they are blindsided by guilt. Guilt for leaving.👈 Guilt for “giving up.”👈 Guilt for hurting someone who hurt them.👈 Guilt for breaking the family apart.👈 Guilt for no longer being able to “fix”...

Why You Defend Them to Others You know something isn’t right. You feel it. You live it. But when someone else questions them…you defend them. You soften what happened. You explain their behaviour. You fill in the gaps with reasons that make it easier to tolerate. “They’re just stressed.” “They’ve had a difficult past.” “They didn’t mean it like that.” “You don’t know them like I do.” And without realising it, you become the one protecting them and their behaviour. What’s really happening...

Why They Minimise What They Did. One of the most confusing parts of a toxic relationship isn’t what happened , it's what happens after. You bring something up. Something that hurt you, something that crossed a line, something that stayed with you long after it happened. And instead of accountability… you get minimisation. “It wasn’t that bad.” “You’re overreacting.” “You’re too sensitive.” “I didn’t mean it like that.” And just like that, the focus shifts. From what they did… to how you...